Cameron Reid

Sensory Deprivation: What a Blindfold Does to Intimacy

We've used a blindfold a handful of times now, but one night stands out clearly above the rest, the night that showed us exactly what it could do. The Drive We'd had dinner with friends while back in our old hometown, staying in a hotel for

Intimate Photography Between Partners: How We Approached It and Why It Worked

I've written before about the years my wife and I spent building comfort with watching and being watched. That comfort eventually opened a door to something else, a practice that has become one of the most sensual parts of our intimacy. This is that story. The Flight to

Voyeurism in Marriage: Seeing Yourself and Your Partner Differently

The word voyeurism carries a lot of baggage. Most people hear it and think of something sneaky, a peeping tom, someone watching without permission, taking something that was never offered. That version is real, and it's not what I'm writing about. What my wife and I

Male Body Image: What Men Carry Into the Bedroom and Never Mention

I was a thin kid. Looking back at old photos now, I can say it plainly: I was a good looking teenager, and for most of my teens and early twenties, I was thin. But somewhere in those years, I developed an insecurity about my body that never left me.

The Layered Blanket Review: The Sex Blanket We Use Every Time

This post contains affiliate links. If you buy through one, we may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. We only write about things we've actually used in our own marriage. For a long time, nobody told us this was a thing. We just lived

The Cost of Rejection: What Happens When One of You Keeps Reaching and the Other Keeps Pulling Away

For a large part of our twenty-seven years together, my wife and I lived inside a cycle. It repeated so many times that I could feel it starting before I understood what it was. It usually began small. Laying in bed, I would caress her hips a certain way,

Fantasy and Desire: What Your Imagination Is Telling You

I have always lived a rich life inside my own head. As a child I spent a lot of time alone with my thoughts. I was a good student but also a daydreamer, the kind of kid who could entertain himself for hours without external stimulation. I developed an ability

JOI: What We Tried, What Didn’t Land, and What It Taught Us

It was my birthday. We were in a hotel with ring lights set up and a night ahead of us with no agenda except each other. We had talked about making a video together. My wife was not ready for that, and I was not going to push it. So

The Desire Gap Part 2: How We Stopped Fighting About Frequency

Part 1 ended without a resolution. That was intentional. This part has one, but not the kind that wraps cleanly. We did not fix the desire gap. We found a way to live inside it that costs us less than it used to. That is the honest version of what

The Desire Gap Part 1: When One Partner Always Wants More

There is a version of this conversation that happens in almost every long marriage. Usually late at night. Usually after someone has been turned down again. It almost never goes well. One partner wants more. The other doesn’t, or not as often, or not right now. And the gap

Cock Rings and ED: A Practical Guide for Long Married Couples

I bought my first cock ring the same night I bought my wife her first vibrator. That night is documented in the Anniversary Gift post, the visit to the sex store that changed something between us early on. I came back to the hotel with three things that evening: the

ED: What Nobody Tells You and What Actually Helps

Let me start with something I used to joke about. In my thirties and forties, when I woke up with a morning erection, I would nudge my wife and tell her we should not let it go to waste. That there would come a day when I might not have