Most couples approach intimacy the way they approach everything else in a busy life. They wait for a gap in the schedule, hope the mood lines up, and try to make something happen in whatever environment they happen to be in at the time. The TV is still on. The
Most people hear "dominance and submission" and picture the same thing. Leather. Restraints. A dungeon aesthetic lifted from Fifty Shades of Grey. Something extreme, something niche, something that has nothing to do with their marriage. That's the first mistake. What It Actually Is When my wife
I don't usually write about television. But I watched Prime Video's Off Campus last week and I haven't been able to stop thinking about it. I enjoy young adult entertainment more than most people my age will admit. It keeps me relevant. It gives
I am not affiliated with Foria Wellness and have received no compensation for this review. I bought this product with my own money and I'm writing about it because it made a real difference in our marriage. If you read The Foria Sex Oil Review I Wish I&
Being naked is easy now. It wasn't always. When I was young I had very bad body image. Some of it came from a public humiliation in a classroom that I wrote about in detail in The People We Share Our Bed With. The short version is that
If you read our first cannabis post, you know how we got here. The bong rip in college, the guilt, the thirty years of avoidance, the podcast that changed our thinking, the dispensary that didn't look anything like I expected. That's the origin story. This post
Familiarity creates boredom. Boredom creates detachment. And detachment, left unaddressed, is the thing that ends marriages. Not always dramatically. Sometimes just quietly, over years, until two people who once couldn't keep their hands off each other are sleeping in the same bed like polite strangers. I've
Nobody tells you that intimacy requires logistics. Early in our marriage it was simple. "I want to be with you" was enough. Mostly initiated by me, usually spontaneous, no setup required. We were young and in love and the wanting was always close to the surface. That version
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This post isn't really about couples who have stopped touching each other. Most long married couples haven't stopped. They touch every day, in the small ways that accumulate over a life together. A hand on the shoulder. A kiss goodbye. The comfortable weight of someone familiar
I need to say something upfront before we go any further. Cannabis is legal in some states and not others. What I'm describing here is something my wife and I do in a state where recreational use is legal, and we did it carefully, intentionally, and after doing
Most couples who have been together for twenty years or more have thought about it at least once. A scenario, a fantasy, a "what if we tried..." that floated through someone's mind and never made it out of their mouth. It stayed there, quietly, because saying