What Is a Clit Sucker
In my last post, I talked about G-spot vibrators and our experience with the Vush Myth. The Vush Empress 2 arrived in the same 2022 Christmas bundle, and it was a game changer for us in a very different way. We tried both toys the same week. The Myth took time, my wife grew into it gradually, the way she's grown into most things in this series. The Empress 2 was different. It hit immediately. No hesitation, no adjustment period. It became the toy she actually went back and asked for. If the Myth was a slow build, the Empress was the dam breaking open.
What a Clit Sucker Actually Is
A clit sucker doesn't vibrate against the skin the way a bullet or a wand does. It uses air pulse or vacuum technology instead, creating a rhythmic suction seal over the clitoris that pulls and releases, pulls and releases. The sensation is built to mimic oral sex rather than buzz against it, which is exactly the comparison every brand in this category reaches for, and exactly the comparison our own experience backs up.
Why Clit Suckers Are Having a Moment
This category has had real cultural momentum for a few years now, and it's worth naming since it wasn't always like this. The rose-shaped suction toy that went viral on social media starting around 2021 introduced a huge number of people to this technology for the first time, air pulse suction wrapped in a shape discreet enough to sit on a nightstand without announcing itself. That trend has since largely given way to a newer favorite, a lemon-shaped suction toy that's dominating the same social feeds right now, built around the same underlying technology in a different shell. Toy trends come and go, but the technology under this one has staying power, which our own experience with a toy from 2022 can vouch for.
The Hurdle We Had to Get Over First
Before any specific toy could work, we had to get past something bigger. My wife spent years genuinely afraid that toys meant our intimacy was being replaced rather than added to. I had to reassure her, more than once, that they were an enhancement, not a replacement, the same distinction we've written about from the start of this series. Novelty and new sensation aren't threats to what already works between two people. That took years to fully believe, not just hear.
Some of that hesitancy came from when and how we grew up. In the nineties, a sex shop was a seedy place, often stuck in the cheaper part of town because that was the only real estate that would have it. People like us drove past those storefronts without a second look. Walking in was something reserved for pervs and outcasts, or so it felt from the outside, and we came of age before the internet gave anyone the social feeds or the casual access to information that exists now. Sex shops today occupy far better real estate and are generally pleasant, even upscale, places to walk into, even if it's still a real culture shock for a lot of people our age the first time. But that wasn't the world we grew up in, and that history doesn't just disappear because the storefronts got nicer.
Why the Empress Hit Different
By 2022, we'd already done a lot of that emotional work through the bullet and the original G-spot vibrator. Even so, the Empress 2 stood out. My wife already loves oral sex and goes a little wild when her clitoris is stimulated directly, so a toy built specifically to mimic that sensation had an obvious head start. My tongue is still her all-time favorite, that hasn't changed and I don't expect it to. But the Empress adds a genuinely different sensation on top of that, not a replacement for it, and that difference is exactly what made it worth keeping around.
What Makes the Empress 2 Work
The specifics matter here too. It runs eight vibration patterns crossed with five intensity levels, forty combinations in total, made of medical-grade silicone, fully waterproof, and it charges magnetically. It's genuinely quiet, which matters more than people expect until they own a loud one. What actually made the difference for us, though, was the handle. The ergonomic curve makes it far easier to navigate and position than a lot of toys in this category, and that ease of use is a big part of why it's considered such a well made product rather than a novelty that looks better than it performs.
One thing worth knowing if you go looking for this exact toy: Vush has since retired the Empress 2 and replaced it with the Empress Tidal. The two aren't quite the same toy under a new name. The Empress 2 works through vacuum suction, it creates a seal and pulls, which is exactly what produces that oral-sex comparison everyone in this category reaches for. The Tidal moves away from suction entirely and uses something Vush calls Pleasure Wave technology instead, low frequency pulsations described as reaching deeper into the clitoral network rather than sealing and pulling at the surface. It also bumps the settings up from forty combinations to forty-eight. We haven't tried the Tidal ourselves, so I can't personally vouch for how the sensation actually compares, but if you're shopping for this and only find the Tidal available, know that you're getting a genuinely different mechanism, not just a newer version of the same one.
How We Actually Use It
The Empress 2 often shows up as an addition rather than the main event. While I'm exploring her anus or her labia, she'll use it on her own clitoris at the same time, real dual stimulation happening in two places at once rather than one thing following another. Given how sensitive she is, she sticks to the lighter settings, the same principle that's shown up everywhere else in this series. More power isn't the goal. The right amount, for her body specifically, is.
What the Empress Really Changed
The dam breaking open wasn't really about the toy, in the end. It was about my wife finally understanding, in her body and not just in theory, that sex could be fun. Enjoyable. Something to actually explore rather than something to get right. The Empress is the toy I'd point to as the moment that shifted for her, and once it shifted, it opened the door to exploring her own sensuality and the fuller range of what her body could feel, not just with this toy but with everything that came after it.
It's waterproof, so cleanup is simple, warm water and mild soap, same as most of what's in our drawer. It's also worth saying plainly that this breakthrough didn't happen everywhere at once. The butt plugs we cover next came into the picture around the same general time as the Empress, but they took far longer to actually land. My wife was genuinely anti anal at first, more resistant to that than almost anything else we tried. It's a strange thing to write now, because her anus has become perhaps her favorite part of her body for me to stimulate. That distance, between where she started with anal and where we ended up, is really its own story, and it's the one this series picks up next.
Getting past the fear that a toy replaces intimacy instead of adding to it took us years and a lot of honest conversation. We put together a free guide called The Five Intimacy Truths Nobody Tells Long Married Couples. It draws on 27 years of real marriage and includes five action steps for exactly that kind of conversation. It's a good place to start.
